If you do give your intimacy another go, despite your love of “the old-fashioned way,” this would be a good time to expand your repertoire. The only way you can find out whether this can be true for you is to try again-but if the thought fills you with dread and despair, you pretty much have your answer as to whether you can continue this relationship. But they liked the guy so much that they stuck with it and said they eventually “adjusted” and came to find their sex lives fulfilling. I once published a letter from a woman whose boyfriend had also gotten the short end of the stick-although perhaps not quite so drastically as yours-and in response I heard from several women who said they were initially very disappointed by their beloved’s under-endowment and wondered whether it was a relationship killer. I see a potential future with him in every other way, but how do I deal with this? Do women who marry very poorly endowed men end up regretting it? If I let him go, what should I tell him that won’t absolutely crush him?ĭear Little, Your wonderful guy was cruelly shafted, and it’s sad to think that a relationship that seemed to have everything may be doomed because of a teeny-weeny problem. I feel awful about this-it’s obviously something that he can’t help, and it slays me that the universe would be so unjust to such a wonderful person. I know that there are other options in the bedroom, but I get pleasure by doing it the old-fashioned way. When you can’t feel anything during the act, that’s a problem. I believe that sex is crucial to a relationship, and the thought of having a (potentially lifelong) relationship without an active sex life scares me. Here’s the problem: We recently became intimate for the first time, and he is, unfortunately, very poorly endowed-so small that I did some Google searching and think he might have a micropenis. Submit your questions and comments here before or during the live discussion.ĭear Prudie, I am a 30-year-old woman who has been dating a lovely man for three months. Got a burning question for Prudie? She’ll be online at to chat with readers on Mondays at 1 p.m. Please send your questions for publication to (Questions may be edited.) An infection that might have made a girl infertile instead gives her a sore throat.Get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week click here to sign up. Oral sex can be safer than penetrative sex: It dramatically reduces the risk of contracting HIV and reduces the effects of some other sexually transmitted infections (although you can still pick up herpes, warts, and thrush). Schoolchildren are now bombarded with information about the risks of sex, particularly HIV/AIDS. But an economic explanation would instead start with the premise that this is a response to changing incentives. Now, there is no shortage of explanations: Perhaps everyone just thought that if it was good enough for Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, it was good enough for them. Moreover, as an economist, I feel uniquely qualified to opine on why it is happening. I am more than a decade away from being either and so regard myself as a neutral in this debate. In some quarters, that might be regarded as progress, but how you feel about it probably depends on whether you are a teenager or a parent of teenagers.